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Wise Ways Approach

All children need to be guided effectively and positively.

Avoid NO and DON’T unless another child is about to be hurt.

A-Acknowledge Feelings

I can see you are really mad right now…

I know you really want to throw that toy…

You don’t like it when Joan takes your toy away from you…

I can see that tearing that bulletin board looks like fun…

B-Because/But SET THE LIMIT – IT IS NOT SAFE

…Jimmy is not for hitting.

…That toy is not for throwing, it is for playing with. I am afraid that it might get broken or hurt if you throw it.

…it is not ok to bite her no matter what she does.

…Tables are not for climbing on

C- CHOICES- Give choices for what they CAN do

You can talk to Jimmy about what you’re mad about or you could go play somewhere else until you’re ready to talk.

You could play gently with this toy or choose another toy to play with.

You can play safely with Joan or go to the Cozy Corner to listen to music and calm down.

We must set our expectations high, set limits and enforce those limits. We need to learn what children are capable of and what they are not capable of so our expectations can be developmentally appropriate for that age.

Try to see the child’s perspective, why are they acting this way? What is causing this behavior?

Reasons for misbehavior-

  1. Unmet need- The child might be tired or hungry. The may not feel safe and secure. They may need extra attention or a more stimulating environment.
  2. Lack of Skills- They may not have the words to solve a problem or enough fine motor skills to get the puzzle piece in place.
  3. Lack of fit- The curriculum or environment is triggering misbehavior. (music is too loud, too noisy for rest time etc.)

Scenario #1-A child keeps climbing on the table. What do you say?

Scenario #2- A child is throwing sand or rocks on the play ground.

Scenario #3- A child has bitten another child.

Examples for Scenario #1

Tottler- Tables are not for climbing on, feet stay on the floor. It is not safe. Please get down. If they do not get down, remove them from the table.

Toddler- Tables are not for climbing on, feet stay on the floor. It is not safe. Please get down, if they do not get down, remove them from the table. Feet are for running, feet are for walking, feet are for jumping. Redirect: “Let me see you jump.”

Twosie’s Tables are not for climbing on, feet stay on the floor. It is not safe. Please get down, if they do not get down, remove them from the table. Feet are for running, feet are for walking, feet are for jumping. Redirect: “Let me see you jump.” You may add an “I message”. When you climb on the table, I am scared you will fall down and hurt your head.

Early Preschool Tables are not for climbing on, feet stay on the floor. It is not safe. Please get down, if they do not get down, remove them from the table. Feet are for running, feet are for walking, feet are for jumping. Redirect: “Let me see you jump.” You may add an “I message”. When you climb on the table, I am scared you will fall down and hurt your head.

Preschool Tables are not for climbing on, feet stay on the floor. It is not safe. Please get down, if they do not get down, remove them from the table. Feet are for running, feet are for walking, feet are for jumping. Add an “I message”. When you climb on the table, I am scared you will fall down and hurt your head. Once you have done this one time, give a logical consequence. You may not play here anymore; you need to choose somewhere else to play. Ensure that they leave the area.

Scenario #3 Be dramatic!

Tottler- “People are not for biting!” Say it and mean it! “You hurt Sarah when you bit her. I can tell she is hurt because she is crying.” Redirect them to something else. Give the child who is bit lots of TLC.

Toddler- “People are not for biting!” Say it and mean it! “You hurt Sarah when you bit her. I can tell she is hurt because she is crying.” Redirect them to something else. Give the child who is bit lots of TLC. Teeth are for chewing and brushing, they are not for biting.

Twosie- “People are not for biting!” Say it and mean it! “You hurt Sarah when you bit her. I can tell she is hurt because she is crying.” Redirect them to something else. Give the child who is bit lots of TLC. Teeth are for chewing and brushing, they are not for biting. “If you do not want them to take your book, you need to say, please stop! My turn!”

Early Preschool/Preschool “People are not for biting!” Say it and mean it! “You hurt Sarah when you bit her. I can tell she is hurt because she is crying.” Redirect them to something else. Give the child who is bit lots of TLC. Teeth are for chewing and brushing, they are not for biting. Model the words for them, even though they have language. “You need to say, please stop, I don’t like when you push me.”